123: Living Tenaciously | Oscar and Kiya Frazier

Oscar and Kiya Frazier are the founders of KO Thought Leaders, an organization that helps couples in business develop structure and strategies that nurture the balance between business and home. 

Working closely together is a dream that grows from love and enthusiasm, and Oscar and Kiya have developed strategies to help themselves, and others, achieve that dream. They advise couple-preneurs on areas including building a stress management plan, trust and respecting boundaries, optimizing your combined efforts, avoiding communication breakdowns, the art of unplugging, and letting the bedroom be a bedroom. Listen to learn more.

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1. Plan But Be Agile
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Oscar and Kiya Fraizer: “There’s a quote that, I think, came from Mike Tyson, but Oscar says it all the time. He’s like, ‘Everybody’s got a plan until you get punched in the mouth.’ And so we literally got punched in the mouth. It’s one of those things where you can plan, but that taught us that you can plan and plan and plan, but until you actually start making some actions, until you take a risk and you jump out there and you do something that you are passionate about and you desire to do, you really never know what’s going to happen on the other side of just taking that leap.”

2. Transparency is Core
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Oscar and Kiya Fraizer: “The silver lining that we learned is transparency in the relationship. And this is not just from a marital perspective. It’s from a partner perspective. Identifying what we are going to do. We don’t have the every two-week paycheck anymore. We’re going to do this entrepreneurial thing. Oh, and we don’t know what to charge our first client. But are we going to keep doing this? And I think that that is what kind of led us to learning about being transparent. If we are afraid to say that we’re afraid, but that cannot stop us. I think that that was really what we learned because now I don’t think there’s really anything that we can’t do.”

3. Eliminate Plan B
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Oscar and Kiya Fraizer: “When you eliminate other options and choices, you only can see one goal. And that is to win. That’s the bottom line of a tenacious leader. A leader doesn’t go into the room and say to their team, this is our goal, but if we fail, here’s the other five options. When you walk into the room as a tenacious leader, you’ve got to have a bullseye. I’m talking about cookie-cutter, focused vision and then you work with your team to figure out how you tactically reach that goal. If you give options, most of the time people are going to accept the other options.”

4. Never Take “No” for An Answer
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Oscar and Kiya Fraizer: “We never take ‘no’ as a final answer. I know a lot of people, when they get a no, they just turn around and say okay, well, that didn’t work. Now where do I need to go? What path to get on? We take no as an, okay, so how do we get better? And how do we get a yes? And that’s just something that we have started to instill in each other for the last several years. No is not a no, it’s just a go back and rework it and find a way to get a yes.”

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